But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites; 2 Of the nations concerning which the Lord said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto you: for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods: Solomon clave unto these in love. 3 And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart. 1 Kings 11:1-3 (KJV)

Solomon had his relationship with God and God blessed him. He started out well, but like so many, he did not end well. God warned Solomon to stay away from “strange” women (1 Kings 11:2). God told him what would happen and we see in the next verse that it happened exactly according to what God said.

We can learn a couple of things from this passage in Scriptures. First, what kind of a wife am I? Do I encourage my husband toward the things of God and His word or does my testimony speak otherwise? (1 Peter 3:1-4) Do I blatantly “strut” my spirituality or does my walk speak louder than my talk? The best thing I can do for my husband is to be close to my God! If I am right with God, His Holy Spirit will lead me and guide me in all things. (John 16:13)

Secondly, do I obey the Scriptures or do I disobey as Solomon did? God gives us many warnings in His word. For example, we are not to be “yoked” with unbelievers. (2 Corinthians 6:14-18) This could mean by marriage or into any close relationship, like business. Picture a yoke, if you will. It has two openings, one for each oxen. One oxen cannot go in one direction and the other in a separate direction. They must go in the same direction. So any relationship or contract which causes a Christian to go in one direction with an unbeliever is not in accordance with God’s word. You can almost be certain that the unbeliever will not want to go in a godly direction. It will lead to compromise for the Christian. The Christian cannot sit on the fence when it comes to compromise – we all know who owns that fence of compromise and that is the devil! God says to come out from among them. That relationship cannot possibly lead to any good.

If your husband is a believer, do you encourage him in the Lord? When he comes to you for input on a decision, do you speak with worldliness or do you seek after God’s word? Are you his helpmeet or do you tear down what he is working hard to do? (Proverbs 14:1) It’s good for us to evaluate our spiritual walk and seek God’s will for our lives. Moral inventory in light of God’s word should be a daily task!

Do you encourage your husband to go the way of the world as Solomon’s wives did or do you encourage him to walk with the Lord as David? (1 Kings 11:6) Is it your goal to help your husband end well? We know Solomon did not end well because of his wives and their influence over him. What kind of wife are you?

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. (Proverbs 31:10)

Is my personal “virtue” worth more than rubies? Or is my personal “virtue” a fake like cubic zirconia? Only I can answer that question honestly.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. (Proverbs 31:11)

Does my husband know that I will be frugal with the money he works hard to bring home? Or do I spend it without prayer or forethought and end up with too much week at the end of his paycheck?

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:12)

Do I do my husband good ALL the time? Or only when I feel like it or if he’s nice to me?

She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. (Pro 31:13)

Do I willingly work with my hands for the benefit of my family? Or do I complain of the mending that is sitting in the basket waiting to be mended?

She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. (Proverbs 31:14)

Do I try to help out when finances are tight? Or do I complain to my husband that there’s not enough money (all hubby hears in my complaint is that he is an awful provider!)?

She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. (Proverbs 31:15)

Am I in control of my schedule to the point that I can get up early to take care of my time with the Lord and the needs of my family before they rise and the hussle bussle of the day takes over? Or do I hit the snooze button a couple of times only to have my entire household in a rush. I am in charge of setting the “tone” in my home.

She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. (Proverbs 31:16)

Do I consider what I buy and spend the money I make from my “craft” (whether that be from my garden or sewing, etc.) wisely? Or do I buy on impulse and hide it away in a drawer or closet and never use?

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. (Proverbsv31:17)

Do I exercise to keep myself physically fit for my family’s sake? Or do I indulge and overeat only to put on more weight? Too much weight reduces my stamina, adds stress to my heart and my legs, and plays havoc with blood pressure. My family needs me strong and healthy to be able to meet their needs.

She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. (Proverbs 31:18)

Do I make sure that the products I sell are done to the best of my ability? Or do I try to get away with providing lesser quality for the same amount of money? Do I do just enough to “get buy”? Am I so well organized so that I do not run out of oil for my candle during the night? In the days of the Proverbs 31 wife, no light in the window usually meant something was wrong, like a death in the family.

She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. (Proverbs 31:19)

Do I learn to use the talents that God has blessed me with faithfully? Or do I make excuses that I simply just can’t learn?

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. (Proverbs 31:20)

Do I care for the needs in my own church as I should? Or do I turn my head and hope that someone else will take care of those needs?

She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. (Proverbs 31:21)

Do I plan ahead and buy winter clothes on sale in the Spring to prepare for the needs of my family? Or do I end up buying winter clothes at top dollar value in the Fall? Are buttons missing from last year’s clothing? Are holes in need of mending?

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. (Proverbs 31:22)

Am I watchful as to how I dress so I can represent my husband properly? Or do I leave the house to go shopping wearing my grungiest jean skirt and no make-up? Do I look nice when he comes home from work or am I less than desirable to look at?

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. (Proverbs 31:23)

Are my deeds such that someone who knows my husband would say “He sure does have a good wife!” Or do his friends see a man whose shirt has not been ironed and his pants look like they sat in the dryer for a few days? Are the children so well behaved that people know he is a good leader?

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. (Proverbs 31:24)

Are my creations done to the best of my ability where they are a wonderful example of Christ through my work? Do I search out new ideas on how to sell my goods?

Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. (Proverbs 31:25)

Am I clothed inwardly (spiritually) as well as I am clothed outwardly? Or am I guilty of hypocrisy?

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. (Proverbs 31:26)

Do I think before I speak making sure I have a kind response? Or do I blurt out the first thing that comes to mind and have to clean up my mess later? Do I try to disguise my unwise speech with “Oh well, I guess am just too honest at times.”?

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. (Proverbs 31:27)

Do I make sure that my list of chores for the day are accomplished? Or do I procrastinate on a few of those chores so I can watch something on TV?

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. (Proverbs 31:28)

Do my words and actions warrant receiving praise from my family? Or do I become bitter because they don’t praise me, not once thinking that it is I who needs to repent?

Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. (Proverbs 31:29)

Do I strive to excel in my spiritual walk? Or do I do just enough to get by? Do I give my husband and family my all? Can my husband brag on me and say that I’m the best wife he could have?

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30)

Do I fear (and honour) the Lord enough for it to guard all my words and actions? Or do I leave those things undone and concentrate on appearing spiritual?

Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Proverbs 31:31)

Do I let my spiritual walk and work speak for itself? Or do I look for praise from others?

One cannot be submissive without obedience – one cannot be obedient without being submissive. They go hand-in-hand, don’t they?

Our children are commanded to obey. We are commanded to obey God. We are commanded to submit ourselves to God. Woman are commanded to submit themselves to their own husbands. We can glean much if we read verses dealing with this topic and applying it to our lives. If we practice true biblical obedience and submission, how can an unsaved husband or disobedient husband to the Word help but see God’s goodness through our actions? If we, as wives, are not obedient and submissive to our husbands, how can we expect our children to be obedient to us? If we’re not practicing what we preach to our children, are we not hypocrites?

But if ye will not obey the voice of the LORD, but rebel against the commandment of the LORD, then shall the hand of the LORD be against you, as it was against your fathers. (1Sa 12:15)

When we know that God wants us to do something, yet we don’t do it, we are being disobedient. We are sinning. Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin. (Jam 4:17) Therefore, if God tells us to submit to our own husbands in all things, and we don’t submit in one little area, are we not sinning?

And Samuel said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD? Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams. (1Sa 15:22) We can play the game of sacrifice all we want, but if we disobey in one area, we are not a delight to the Lord. Let’s say my husband tells me to do something I don’t want to do. Instead I make up for it by going the extra mile in doing other things for him – that is the game of sacrifice rather than obedience. I may have all the warm fuzzy feelings in the world because I did all those extra things for him, but I did not do what he asked me to do.

But this thing commanded I them, saying, Obey my voice, and I will be your God, and ye shall be my people: and walk ye in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well unto you. (Jer 7:23) When we obey, God says it will be well with us. We will have peace in our homes and foremost in our hearts. Women are emotional creatures. God made us that way. If we are trying to be a yielded vessel to God, we know automatically when we are not doing right. We do not have that peace that our actions are what God wants. We lie to our own selves when we say that we are doing the “right” thing yet we know it is not our husband’s will.

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. (Col 3:20) Don’t expect your children to obey you if you don’t obey/submit to your husband. Your children do not have to witness your unsubmissive spirit – it will be evident in other ways and you will reap with disobedient children. When your children are disobedient, look inward – examine yourself first. Are you a submissive wife? If you are, then deal with your children accordingly. If you’re not, then deal with yourself accordingly. Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. (Gal 6:7)

Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but in singleness of heart, fearing God: (Col 3:22) Obedience and submission is such an important lesson for us to learn. Without it, there is chaos. That is the reason the world is in the shape it’s in. We have lost our singleness of heart (purity of heart – separation) and our fear of God. We do not see our disobedience as sin. We think we know better or have more wisdom than our husband. But the Word does not say to submit only when we think it’s right.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; (1 Pe 3:1) Why would Peter say this? The “conversation” of a meek and submissive wife speaks volumes to her unsaved or disobedient husband. He does not need the Word. He sees the Word in action by her submission!

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. (Eph 5:22) Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. (Col 3:18 ) Twice Paul commands the wives to submit their own husbands. Take notice and obey. To do otherwise, is sin.

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (Jam 4:7) When we submit ourselves to our husbands, we are submitting to God’s will for our lives – as unto the Lord. God did not create us to rule our homes. No matter if we could do a better job than our husbands can, it is not our place to rule and go against his wishes. We do not have the God-given wisdom and discernment that God gives to men. We were made to nurtur, not lead. We women are emotional and do not base our decisions on logic as a man does. The devil will whisper in our ear and say that we know better but we should not succumb. We are to resist the devil – submit ourselves to God by submitting ourselves to our husbands.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (Eph 5:33) The word reverence is only ever used in Scriptures as it relates to God, a king, superiors or our husbands. That should tell you something. Noah Webster says reverence means:

…to regard with fear mingled with respect and affection. We reverence superiors for their age, their authority and their virtues. We ought to reverence parents and upright judges and magistrates. We ought to reverence the Supreme Being, his word and his ordinances.

If a woman willingly submits to her husband, she reverences him. She shows him that she gives him the respect he rightly deserves. He should not receive it only when he earns it – his position as husband and head of your home says he deserves reverence. This is God appointed and God commanded. Without this order, there is chaos in the home.

Godly submission, obedience and reverence are our goals in life, ladies. We are to practice, practice, practice! When you go against your husband’s wishes, can you honestly admit that your heart and your home are at peace? Honestly? If you are experiencing strife in your home, look to your heart first and see if you are being the submissive wife God has commanded you to be. Only then will you know for sure. If you’re not, repent and ask forgiveness from God and from your dear husband.

If you are submitting to your husband as unto the Lord, God will give you grace during your trial and will provide for every need you have. He does not forsake us!!!

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. (Prov. 31:27) It’s not rocket science. The Proverbs 31 wife’s home did not look like this… Not even remotely! The woman whose house resembles this picture does not have her priorities in order. There is something wrong, not only in her priorities but in her spiritual life. She is eating the bread of idleness. Satan has distracted her from her responsibilities and she is focused on other tasks. Important as those tasks may be, her priorities are to be a helpmeet to her husband, care for her children and her home.

The Proverbs wife did not have the distractions that women have today. Today’s woman has distractions like the television, telephone, and foremost the computer, just to name a few. Yes, she may be on the phone trying to arrange a church meeting, but did that conversation take priority over her housework? Yes, she may be watching a great preacher on television, but did that take priority over her housework? Yes, she may be doing research on-line for new hymnals for the church, but did that take priority over her housework? Ouch!

Paul gave a list for the older Christian women to teach the younger women in Titus 2:4-5, “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,(4) To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. (5)” Notice that there is not a task here that involves things outside the home. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t involve ourselves with things outside the home. What I am saying is that we need to complete our tasks in the home first or we are outside of God’s will. God’s Word is blasphemed when the wife strays away from her God appointed role as a keeper of the home.

It is wonderful when a woman can be a stay-at-home wife and mother. There is enough work at home in caring for and raising children, and keeping up with a house. The Proverbs wife was not idle and neither should today’s wife and mother. Unfortunately, there are way too many women who do not take their role as a stay-at-home wife and mother seriously. They are quick to put other things ahead of their day-to-day chores. They find their chores as boring. When a woman dwells on these thoughts, her chores will be boring. It’s all in how your view your life. Rather than look at your life as God’s blessings upon you and His will for you, you look at your life in comparison to the woman next door who is a lawyer. This negative thinking will take your mind off what God wants for you. You will quickly lose sight of your blessings and become a bitter woman in the end. You can change your way of thinking.

I loved this cartoon because it speaks volumes. I challenge every woman to document the times she is on the computer. You would be amazed at what a time waster it can be. The Proverbs 31 wife should make her time on the computer the very last thing on her list of things to do for the day. Her children should be cared for and her house cleaned before even sitting down in front of it. The television is just as bad. It, too, is a tremendous time waster. Sadly, many use it as a babysitter also. No wonder many children suffer from being over weight or are hyper. They do not spend the countless hours outside playing as we did growing up. Instead, they are amused with television, videos and video games – all of these involve no physical activity whatsoever. Granted, there are some good educational shows and videos out there but this should be used for rainy days and not made a normal part of their day.

God has given you His Son Who has saved you from eternity in hell. He’s given you a wonderful husband who loves you. The Lord has given you children to care for. This wonderful husband has provided you with a roof over your head. Are you grateful? Gratefulness is shown through action, not idleness. Be grateful for your salvation by loving the Lord and placing Him first. Be grateful for your husband’s love by making sure his needs are met and being the helpmeet God wants you to be. Be grateful by seeing that your children are raised properly and cared for, and that the home he is working hard to build is kept. Your home should be a haven of rest for your family, not one of chaos and clutter.

Here are a couple of quotes I came across that I thought would bless you.

I am thankful for a lawn that needs mowing, windows that need cleaning and gutters that need fixing because it means I have a home…. I am thankful for the piles of laundry and ironing because it means my loved ones are nearby. ~Nancie J. CarmodyLove is the thing that enables a woman to sing while she mops up the floor after her husband has walked across it in his barn boots. ~Hoosier Farmer

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She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. (Pro 31:20)Today’s crime rate has closed a door of opportunity for Christian women to extend a helping hand. It is no longer safe for women to venture out to help the homeless as it was years ago. However, our hand can extend to the poor and those in need in so many other ways. This Proverbs 31 wife helped both. She displayed her gift of mercy by reaching out. Notice that the verse says that she “stretcheth out her hand” and she “reacheth forth her hands.” This wife was actively using her gifts. What has God blessed you with? Are you using your gifts for others?

Good examples of a way a woman can use those talents God has given to her are:

  • Making meals for church members, neighbors, and friends in need.
  • Going through clothing you no longer use, wash them and bag them for someone in need in your church, or Goodwill.
  • Call someone in your church you know could use a “pick-me-up.”
  • Knit/Crochet scarves for the children from that poor family in your church.
  • Visit the senior saints from your church – many do not have family who live locally.
  • Are you a gardener – do you grow vegetables? Give someone of the fruit of your labor.
  • Open your home to teens and youth so they have another place to go to stay out of trouble.
  • Can you sew? Sew a dress for that little girl in Junior Church who comes faithfully and wears the same dress.
  • Do you love music? Make music CD’s of uplifting songs and give it to someone who needs encouragement.
  • Do you create your own cards? Send cards to shut-ins or that lady you see sitting alone at church every week.

We don’t have to go out into the highways and by-ways to use the gifts God has given us. All we have to do is start looking at the needs in our own church, our own neighborhood, and our own friends and family.

Dear God…
Help me to see the ones in need
Please show me what to do
So You can work through me for them
To bring honor and glory to You

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. (Prov. 31:17) Remember Rosie the Riveter? She was a poster girl during World War II used to encourage women to work outside the home to fill the jobs men were doing so men would be free to join the military and serve their country. I thought this picture was amusing because I believe this is how today’s woman envisions fulfilling Prov. 31:17. However, I don’t believe that this is how God wants us to look. Women are not to look like men and I’m sure most husbands would prefer their wives to be soft and feminine.

The Proverbs 31 wife has strength of body. She looks well to her health – she eats right – she exercises – she’s active. When we don’t eat properly, our bodies become sluggish, without energy. When we are strong physically, we are able to handle those every day tasks. I know that when I’m not feeling well, those tasks become mountains and I am overwhelmed. However, when I feel well, I feel that I can do anything! I’m sure she did not have any exercise equipment but somehow she strengthened her arms – probably working in the field she bought and sowed in verse 16. The women of old were busy women, all the day long. Their children worked right along side them.

Some Christian women, like myself, struggle to lose weight. I never compared the task of losing weight with the Proverbs 31 wife’s strength. Yes, it’s good for the Christian woman to build her spiritual life, but the Proverb’s 31 wife was strong in both her spiritual (verse 1) and physical life (verse 17). This wife worked at keeping herself strong.

Excess weight brings hardships to the body. Diabetes, arthritis, acid reflux, and high cholesterol are some of the common complaints of those who are overweight. I, personally, suffer from three of these and I’m 40 lbs. over weight. I feel certain that if I lose the 40 lbs., I will almost eliminate these problems. Sometimes we willfully continue on this road of weight gain, despite having the knowledge of what it does to us physically – both men and women. If it is in our capability to lose weight, we should. Not doing so is not being a good steward of the temple that God has given to us to care for. If being overweight is your genetic “make-up” then you should strive to keep your body strong. Don’t forget to eat right and take your vitamin supplements. Your family depends on you being strong of mind and body.

Dear God…
Forgive me for failing
When it comes to my weight
May I strive to get stronger
For my family and mate

She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. (Pro 31:15) Notice that the Proverbs 31 wife rises “while it is yet night” so she could provide for her household. Granted, most of us do not have maidens to help us with our daily chores. However, this wife had everything prepared and ready for her maidens. Whether these maidens were her own unwed daughters or servants is unclear. But what is clear is that the Proverbs 31 wife was organized and had done the prep work for the day before the maidens began their chores.

Because Prov. 31:10 says she is a virtuous woman, I believe this wife not only got up early to prepare for the physical needs of her household but also to prepare herself spiritually for the needs of her family. She relied on her time with the Lord and His Word to feed her spirit and soul. Only then can a woman take on the challenges of life with a Godly spirit and wisdom to deal with ole slew foot’s snares. This wife rose up before the sun even crept through the windows. I remember when my children were little and how difficult it was for me to find uninterrupted time with the Lord. They would stir at 6:00 every morning, like clockwork. I had to get up an hour earlier in order to fuel myself spiritually. When I failed to do so, my day always had hurdles that were difficult and I did not feel organized.

Do you plan your day? Or are you the type whose life is chaotic. There’s a saying that goes something like this: If you need something done, ask the busiest person you know because their lives are ordered and scheduled. This Proverbs 31 wife was the organized wife because she worked at it by getting up before dawn to get herself prepared. Since verse 12 says that she did her husband good all her days, she included something in her plans for the day that revolved around this man God had given to her. She had the spiritual meat as well as the meals for the day planned and prepared before sunrise. She had the chores already laid out for the maidens to do. In our lifestyle, our maidens would be our children. We should be teaching our children to have specific chores in order to help us out.

Can you imagine how your day would go if you used the following routine?

1. Rise up an hour before everyone else. Forget self – if you wanted to go to your favorite past-time, you would get up even earlier in order to be ready. Wash up and get fully dressed as if you were ready to go out the door.

2. Spend time with the Lord in prayer and reading. Ask for His guidance and wisdom as you go through your day.

3. Plan your day – plan your spiritual time with the children first – plan menus – plan chores needed to be done by you and the children and then assign them to each child. Plan short breaks so everyone gets rejuvenated and motivated to continue. Fix breakfast for the family and send your dear husband off to work.

4. Work your schedule until your tasks are completed. Only then should you sit at the computer or your favorite past-time.

5. An hour or so before your dear husband comes home, do a quick look-around to make sure that the common areas are picked up and nice and get dinner started. If you planned properly in the morning, this should be a breeze.

6. If the kids are “wound up” and overly excited, take them outside to play tag so they work out their energy. If it’s raining, have an exercise time with them and work out the those little energy boosts out of their arms and legs by doing jumping jacks, etc. Then right before your husband is expected to come home, take out the coloring books and drawing paper or reading books and have them sit quietly.

7. Put on sweet music in the background, light a nicely scented candle and double check your appearance to be sure you look your best. Remember, he sees business women all day long – he doesn’t need to see you in your favorite “shlump” clothes. Make your husband’s haven a place he longs to come home to.

8. After dinner, have the kids help you pick up the dirty dishes and send hubby off to relax. Once the dishes are finished, take the kids outside for a half hour or so (or another part of the house if it’s raining) and let hubby catch the news without interruption.

9. After the children are in bed, do what you planned that morning relating to your husband. Whether it his favorite brownies, sitting with him in the garage while he worked on the car, or giving him a massage because his back hurt. You are his helpmeet and he is your priority. Don’t let the day end without doing something for him. In fact, don’t let the day start and get away from you without having planned this already.

The Proverbs 31 wife did not waste a minute of her day. She was not only frugal with her money, but frugal with her time. So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. (Psalm 90:12)

Dear God…
May I use each minute wisely
Tending to the day’s affairs
May each revolve around those
You have entrusted in my care

She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. (Pro 31:13) This wonderful lady took every opportunity to find what she needed for her family. I love the word “seeketh” used here. Today’s Proverb 31 wife would probably research on-line for deals and coupons. She would diligently search the newspapers for more coupons. She looks for quality material, as shown here by this woman searching for wool and flax. Flax was used to make thread and linen fabric. Both these fabrics (wool and linen) are not flimsy or cheap, as many sewers know. They are both sturdy fabrics and have a lot of wear.

Also notice that this wife worked willingly with her hands. I do not see a woman who is grudgingly working here. I see a woman who realizes that God created her to be a helpmeet to her husband. She desires to meet his needs by making clothes for him. She wants him to look good. Her family does not lack in this area.

Today’s devotional is not very long but packs a punch, doesn’t it? Even if you can’t sew, you should still be working to buy quality clothing at the best price. Do you seek the best bargains for clothing? Do you buy the latest fashions knowing that it will be out of style in a year? Do you buy a bargain item only to have to buy it again because it fell apart? I love thrift stores! You can buy quality clothing at a real bargain!!

Be wise as you look for bargains. Making and buying quality garments at a good price will not only help you to keep your family dressed well for the season but it will save you money in the long run. Your husband will be able to rest assured that his wife doesn’t squander the money he works so hard to bring home. He will rest easy knowing that his family will not have clothing that will fall apart but will be sturdy, beautiful and made or bought at a good price! Can your husband say that about you today? It’s never too late to start!

Dear God…
Help me to be wise today
As I spend each dollar bill
Help me use my resources
As I seek to do Your will

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. (Pro 31:12) I have often wondered how a wife could possibly do evil to her husband when this is the man that she loves. I could see how this could be a true statement when she is involved in an unhappy marriage. However, is it possible for a wife to do evil to her husband when she is in a happy Godly marriage?

What are some evil things that a wife could do to her husband? Noah Webster defines evil as:

Moral evil is any deviation of a moral agent from the rules of conduct prescribed to him by God, or by legitimate human authority; or it is any violation of the plain principles of justice and rectitude.

When a wife knows that she should be doing a certain thing for her husband and she does not do it, it is sin. For example, she knows she must be submissive but she rebels against his wishes instead. This is an example of doing him evil.

Let’s look at a few verses which show a wife what is expected of her.

… and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (Eph 5:33b) Do you respect and esteem your husband? Respecting and esteeming him is good in public, but do you do so in private as well? Reverencing the man that God has given you is commanded of you. When you fail to reverence him, you are doing him evil.

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. (Eph 5:23) Is your husband your head? This verse says that he is. Do you treat him as such? Or do you supersede his decisions? Do you step in and take control without speaking with him in situations which should be handled by him? You are removing him from his rightful place as head of your home. Without words, your actions are telling him that you think he is not capable of leading your home. If you are doing this, you are doing him evil.

… but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. (1 Cor. 7:34b) Paul says that the married woman sees how she can please her husband. Do you look for ways to please your man? This is what Proverbs 31:12 is speaking of when she is doing him good.

A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. (Pro 19:13) A contentious woman is a woman who, according to Noah Webster, is given to angry debate and is quarrelsome. She argues with her husband over everything. It’s obvious that she’s not content with how he heads the home. Notice how Solomon compares her to a continual dropping? We’ve all heard the bathroom faucet dripping as we’re trying to sleep. It gets to the point where the continuous drip sounds like thunder in the still of the night. I believe this is the thought that he was trying to convey. This contentious woman is a nuisance and makes her man crazy. Can you see him as he rubs his forehead and shakes his head? I can see where a man like this would throw his arms up in the air in defeat. If you are always arguing with your husband, you are doing him evil.

House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD. (Pro 19:14) Ah, the prudent wife does good to her husband. She is cautious and wise as she does her shopping. She watches for sales. She spends his money with care. She doesn’t jump to conclusions or rush into trouble. She is careful with her words and chooses them wisely. She does not bring him shame – either in action or in word. All these things show her prudence and Proverbs 31:12 says she is doing him good.

Lastly, this Proverbs 31 wife is doing him good all the days of her life. She does him good even when she doesn’t feel like it. She does him good even if she is sick or the children are sick… ALL the days of her life.

Dear God…
I commit to You today
To do my husband good
Drive evil far from me
So I can be the wife I should

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. (Pro 31:11) Trust is something that is earned – it is developed as a relationship grows. You don’t meet a stranger and trust him right away, do you? You observe this person and get to know him. While watching for this person’s integrity, reliability and sound principles you then begin to respect him. Proverbs 31:11 says that this husband safely trusts in his wife. Not only does he trust her but he does so without hesitation or fear! This adjective speaks volumes, doesn’t it?

Does your husband feel this way about you? If not, why not? Do you belittle him in front of others? How can you trust someone who doesn’t honor you? Ephesians 5:33b is still in the Bible. …and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (Eph 5:33) I have heard some very sad stories of men belittling their wives to their co-workers. The wife finds out and it is a long time before she forgets how disrespectful her husband was of her to his friends. It is no different here. A wife should never, and I repeat never, say anything but uplifting and kind things about her husband to others as well as to her husband. This builds trust. He knows that she is his best friend, his supporter and his cheerleader. She should never say anything to anyone that would make him look bad in their eyes. I know that when a woman tells me something negative about her husband, it’s the first thing I think of the next time I see him. The same results happen when I hear a good thing about her husband. Which one do you think will create safe trust in this man’s heart?

The latter part of the verse says that the Proverbs 31 wife’s husband shall have no need of spoil. Are you wasteful? Your husband works so that you can have food, shelter and clothing. Do you waste food? Do you take care of the house to prevent costly repairs later? Do you spend your money wisely on clothing by hitting the sales, buying from thrift stores or yard sales? Do you mend and repair rather than throw it away and buy new? How do you spend his hard-earned money when you go shopping? Do you go to the most expensive store because it is closer or do you seek out bargains? Do you make gifts by hand using your craftiness rather than buy something? Do you pray before you buy asking the Lord to send the item? I have seen many times where the Lord has sent something “free”! We miss out on blessings when we don’t commit our purchases to the Lord.

The Proverbs 31 wife was not only a virtuous (Godly) woman, but she was in the promotional business. She was busy promoting her husband and his character. Everything she said and everything she did had her husband in mind – how she could build him up and make him successful. Do you think I’m reading into this verse? I don’t think I am. The very fact that he “safely” trusted in her tells me that he did not have one worry involving her. He knew beyond a shadow of doubt that she would do the right thing. I’m sure you’ve heard it said, “Honey, don’t mention what I told you the other night in front of my boss, OK?” If a husband “safely” trusted in his wife, he would have no need to mention this.

Just because you are married now does not mean that your husband will safely trust in you immediately. Remember, it takes time to build trust. Work on building that trust in your husband’s eyes by speaking good of him and being careful with every dollar that you spend. This is just the beginning and as he sees these qualities in you, you can be sure that it is adding to the foundation of trust he will have for you.

Dear God…
Help me to guard my mouth
Be uplifting in every way
Guide me as I spend each dime
Give me wisdom each new day