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Loneliness – Pull Up A Chair

As Christians, we should have the joy of our salvation ever present in our lives. However, I find myself weary of well doing – weary of fighting the battle – weary because of ill health. When I rest in this long enough, I go down the path of feeling of alone. People are all around me, yet I feel alone.

I am not the type of person who stays discouraged long. I praise the Lord, God Almighty for pulling me out of “myself” early. Yes, “myself” – because it is not the Lord who changes – I am the one who changes. How I view my circumstances totally depends on my walk with the Lord.

Feeling alone is not wrong. In fact, it is at these times that we turn to God and He has our undivided attention. It is then that I am still and in listening mode. Although I have people around me, I have felt all alone. But I am not the only person who has ever been in this position. David poured his heart out in Psalm 102 with these same feelings.

The Lord, Himself, was alone at times. I think of when His closest friends deserted Him and ran.

~Matthew 26:56 But all this was done, that the scriptures of the prophets might be fulfilled. Then all the disciples forsook him, and fled.

As if this wasn’t bad enough, the Heavenly Father forsook Christ when He hung on the cross and all of mankinds’ sin was laid on Him.

~Matthew 27:46 And about the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? that is to say, My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?

Our Saviour died alone on that cross. Have my feelings of being alone been as overwhelming as my Saviour’s? Mine don’t even compare to what Christ went through. The Lord understands my feelings – He knows what I am going through because He has been through them as well.

~Hebrews 2:18 For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succour them that are tempted.

I love the word “succour” – Noah Webster defines it as:

Literally, to run to, or run to support; hence, to help or relieve when in difficulty, want or distress; to assist and deliver from suffering; as, to succor a besieged city; to succor prisoners.

Do you feel alone today? Jesus Christ, your Saviour desires to run to you to support you, help you and relieve you during your time of distress. Just as you would run to a friend and cry for help, turn to the Lord and ask Him. Who can help us better than the Lord?

The picture above was taken by Carol Meyers and used here with her permission. She has traveled to some of the most beautiful places in the world and has captured so many pictures which depict peace and tranquility. Thank you, Carol, for allowing me this opportunity to use your work!


Then shalt thou call, and the LORD shall answer; thou shalt cry, and he shall say, Here I am. (Isaiah 58:9)

Despite the hustle and bustle of the world around us, miles of traffic jams, and crowded malls, it is amazing how many people in this world suffer from loneliness. Man was not created to be alone. And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Genesis 2:18) No matter how much of a loner one is, that person has a need for human contact at some point or another. Most are not loners, however, so human contact is a vital ingredient for healthy emotions. Loneliness left unchecked leads to despair.

As a born-again believer, I am encouraged by God’s Holy word because He deals with this very subject over and over. God knew from the beginning that man could not be alone and that he would suffer from loneliness. So much so, He included the beautiful Book of Psalms for encouragement and countless other verses throughout His word. Our Father knows our needs because He created us. He knows everything about us. We cannot hide anything from Him, including our loneliness. [To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David.] O LORD, thou hast searched me, and known me. (Psalm 139:1) I stand amazed that our God knows all of us in this intimate way. God has searched each one of us and knows us!

Even when we are at our lowest, the Lord is right there to lift us up through His word. I think of David when he made this statement in Psalm 27:10: When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up. David knew that his God would never forsake him. The Lord reassures His children over and over throughout His word that He is faithful. … for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee. (Hebrews 13:5) Again, He assures us in Isaiah 42:16, …These things will I do unto them, and not forsake them.

When we need comfort and reassurance, He promises to be there for us. I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you. John 14:18 Our Heavenly Father is there every moment of the way in our Christian walk. And, behold, I am with thee, and will keep thee in all places whither thou goest, and will bring thee again into this land; for I will not leave thee, until I have done that which I have spoken to thee of. (Genesis 28:15)

We may fall asleep at night and forget the day’s trials and burdens but our God never sleeps and is ever watching out for us. Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep. (Psalm 121:4) Does that not bring you comfort? You are not alone, my friend. No matter how empty your house is, you are not alone. No matter if there is no one sitting with you in your car, you are not alone. Your Heavenly Father has placed in you His Precious Holy Spirit. He comforts you, teaches you and points you to Christ through His Holy word. And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; (John 14:16) (Emphasis mine).

How can you overcome your loneliness? Get in the Scriptures, oh Christian. The Holy Spirit is waiting to bring that precious comfort to you. His comfort resides within the pages of your Bible but you must open it to receive it. But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. (John 14:26) We get refreshment and encouragement within the pages of our Bible as we are drawn and taught by the Holy Spirit. How full of mercy is our Father! He knows every fiber of our being and provides living water for us to walk away refreshed. Our loneliness dissipates as we soak up His word and see once again the light of day.

Once we are refreshed, we are commanded to go out and be a friend to someone. A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: (Proverbs 18:24) No one can feel alone when they are focused on helping others. There are people out there in need, whether physical, emotional or spiritual. God can use a believer who has overcome loneliness to minister to a lonely world. So many are lonely out there – won’t you let the Friend of all friends be your example? and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24b Do you feel friendless? When you are born again, oh Christian, God calls you His friend.Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. (John 15:13) Jesus paid the ultimate price to be your friend. You are never alone.

Treat your loneliness today with a good dose of refreshing time in the Bible then put feet to your refreshing time and spend time with someone who is lonely. God will use your trials to minister to another and bring glory to His Name.

Dear God…
At times I am so lonely
It leads me to despair
But then my Morning Manna
Shows me how much You care.

I love You, Lord!!

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Rom 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;

Gal 6:2 Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.

Eph 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

How do we encourage a friend in need? How do we encourage a perfect stranger? The Apostles John, Paul and Peter penned the phrase “love one another” twelve times in the New Testament! I found this interesting, actually.

We should not have a judgmental attitude toward anyone for who are we to know that God has not placed this individual in our path just for the purpose of encouraging that dear soul? Job’s friends showed up when he had lost everything. Instead of encouraging him, they did the exact opposite!

~Job 6:27 Yea, ye overwhelm the fatherless, and ye dig a pit for your friend.

This is not the kind of person we should strive to be! We must make ourselves available to encourage those that Jesus puts in our lives. For what do you know about this person, really? They could be going through financial troubles – emotional problems – loneliness – etc. How can we help someone if we are judging?  Be ready to share Christ if they do not know Him.  Be ready to encourage them down the paths of righteousness if they have gone astray.

Whatever you do, leave yourself out of it and let the Holy Spirit guide you to be an encouragement to someone today!  What does it take?:  a smile, a hug, a note card, a phone call, sharing your time, sharing yourself!

There are times when I’m so lonely
I can’t handle what I’m going through.
It’s as if I’m in a valley
Asking what am I going to do?

I feel so lost and so alone,
And my heart can’t take the pain.
I don’t know why this is happening…
That reason’s just not plain.

So I asked the Lord to answer me
and He spoke out loud and clear;
“The reason a valley is what it is
Is because there’s a mountain near”!

“When you feel like you can’t see Me,
It’s not because I don’t care.
Your eyes aren’t fixed on the other side.
If you looked you’d see Me there”!

“I’m always there, I’m right beside you.
And I’ll never let you down.
Man’s words and actions vacillate,
But My foundation is always sound”!

“Rest your life in My Hands always,
And I’ll bless you all the while.
Although I allow those wilderness times,
I’m always with you Child”!

“I was, I am, and will always be,
Right there when you call My Name.
Just wrap your life around My Word,
And great comfort you will gain”!

Kate Plourde

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